I've been struggling with a knotty problem for some time. Any parent knows that a child is born with its own independent spirit that has nothing to do with you. We cannot be reduced to our DNA and environment. Studies of identical twins prove this, where they may have very different characters despite identical DNA and early environment. And yet when addressing the soul we often behave as though all we are is a product of DNA and environment. Some psychotherapists get very worked up with me when I point out the obvious corollary, which is that childhood conditions are not as formative as we are led to believe: such a belief is the product of a reductive materialist outlook that is often at odds with the psychotherapist's metaphysical beliefs.
Moving into the shamanic sphere, another corollary is that ancestral patterns are not as formative either. We make too big a deal of them because of the cultural belief that conditions - whether DNA or environment - are all, with the spirit almost an optional extra. If you are doing ancestral work, you need to root out this belief, or you will over-emphasise and so misunderstand its influence.
We do not take the spirit seriously enough, even though it is the strongest conditioning factor of all. We are not effects, or victims, of DNA and circumstance. Sure, trauma, that overused word, shapes us. But at bottom, it doesn't. I am wary of the 'trauma' peddlers and their message of victimhood. At bottom there is something pure and powerful that is beyond it, that is able to stand up to anything and make something of it, even though it may take decades. At bottom we are cause, not effect, and this is a real experience.
The soul and its origins are inherently mysterious. This does not suit a materialist scientific culture which wants explanations for everything. So we say yes of course we have a spirit, and then carry on as if we don't. We want scientific respectability, and we want words and reasons for everything, and the spirit doesn't work that way. 500 years ago it was heretical to deny the existence of the spirit. Nowadays it can be heretical to insist too strongly on its existence. You wouldn't find it asserted in a standard psychology book, yet it is the main part of who we are.
So what I've been struggling with is how to describe the relationship between the spirit and the influences it meets, whether DNA, family, culture or ancestry. I needed a metaphor, for there is no scientific explanation.
The metaphor came to me while driving in Scotland a few days ago: it is fire meeting water. The spirit is fire, and the conditions it meets are water. Our lives are the synergy between them, the hot steam that arises and transforms. This metaphor has a deeply traditional resonance, for what else is the steam within the Sweat Lodge?
Fire is cause, it is the living and moving element that will burn you if you come too close. "Trailing clouds of glory do we come, From God who is our home," sang the poet Wordsworth. The fire is sacred, it is an emanation of the Great Spirit, 'the holiest of everything', and our lives are for the same reason a sacred task.
Water is the containing element. It is the mother, and the conditions of our life, everything we are born into. Water too is sacred. It is the feminine to the fire's masculine.
Fire meeting water may be a gentle simmering over a long period, or it may be fiercely boiling, as at times of initiation. In any case, it is the most helpful way I know of thinking of who I am. It is metaphor not concept, so it speaks to the whole of me. And it has its roots in ancient conceptions of the elements, both European and American, and carries the power of that.
I view the fire as primary in any consideration of my life. In that way I am no longer tempted to reduce myself to my childhood or my ancestry. And because both the fire and the water are sacred, I trust the callings within me (fire) and the conditions I meet (water), testing as that they often are. My life is an ongoing synergy between fire and water.
I make a point of not looking for childhood or cultural or indeed any explanations of who I am. Childhood could just as easily have been a mirror for the propensities I arrived with, as it could have been the cause of them. At the same time, I hold my childhood closely, I feel it deeply. It has given me certain struggles that have forged me as an adult. I used to view it as a list of things that went wrong that I needed to correct. I don't view it like that any more, for who am I to judge the purposes of the sacred? My childhood was what it was, much of it is lost to memory, and that is as it needs to be, for we are not creatures of the past.
The fire burns in the present, while the water contains, but is not limited to, the past. Their synergy creates the future.
This elemental way of looking at who we are is to be found in the Medicine Wheel. We come from the East, Fire. It goes round the Wheel and interacts with the Water of ancestors and family, and in this way a personality is formed that inhabits a body and this world – the Earth of the West. The Air of the North gives the ability to stand back and have perspective on the crucible of Fire and Water: in that way we can co-operate with and hold the transformation process.