TANTRIC SEX

A few months ago I went for a Tantric massage. I had no particular reason other than curiosity. And at the high point of the 'massage' I was taken over physically by the Spirits in a way that usually happens when doing trance dance or journeying. But it had its own quality. There was a catalytic, initiatory sense to it, that seemed to be a product of the interaction between what I can only call the divine masculine and the divine feminine, as embodied by myself and the 'temple goddess' respectively. We both saw and experienced serpent energy in the room. The temple goddess said that this level of interaction was quite unusual for her.

This experience was brought to mind because of a dream I had this morning, in which I was experiencing that divine pull of the feminine, in the form of an actual woman, but really it seems to be about something powerful in myself that has been coming alive since last June. And the dream was in turn catalysed by watching a biopic of Eric Clapton, and his obsession with Patti Boyd, who he 'stole' from her husband, his friend George Harrison. 

Eric Clapton and Patti Boyd

And I think the reason Clapton (aged 25) was so obsessed is because he has that artistic temperament that more than most seeks the inner union of masculine and feminine; that is where the artistic power comes from, but we often begin by seeking it without. Dante understood this in his feelings for Beatrice, and kept his distance and used it for an inner journey.

Dante sees Batrice

And the reason all this is relevant to us is that the healer/shaman/medicine person is also someone whose power comes from having both masculine and feminine awake in themselves, at least to some degree. Talk to anyone who does this work, and you will find this is commonly the case.

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But anyway, I feel I will have cheated you if I don't talk about sex, because that is in the title of this piece :) The usual model we have in our heads for sex is that it is about 2 people becoming increasingly stimulated to the point where they both have orgasms, and that constitutes 'successful' sex. If one person doesn't have an orgasm, then it has not been successful, and the other person may then experience a sense of inadequacy or failure.

Tantric sex is not about this path to orgasm, and the sense of success or failure that comes with that, and the pressure involved. We are such a crazy society! Tantric sex involves the exchange of feeling and energy between 2 people. It may go on for a long time, and it is not meant to be leading anywhere. There may or may not be orgasms, and if there are, for the male it is the 'full body' orgasm that is aimed for, rather than ejaculation, which involves a major depletion of energy, rather than the invigoration that the Tantric way leads to. There is overall much love and beauty in the exchange, consciousness is heightened, and time can disappear.

With our openness to and familiarity with Spirit, I think that the Tantric way is something that many Shamanic people could find comes naturally. And I think it takes place essentially outside of the usual conceptions of monogamy and attachment, for it is Spirit principles that are involved. Though it may include them, and if it didn't one would have to tread carefully and not pretend we have gone beyond all that, because we are after all human as well as divine.